I am asked what are my favorite activities, what makes me hot by play partners daily.
For me , while I like certain activities more than others, to do the same thing every day would be boring. I love exploring the multitudes of kinks and fetishes. They are all delightful, like standing before the ice cream/gelato counter with over 40 flavors and trying to figure out what two you will try today, it is always mouth watering and tasty when you receive your choices.
Submission is not about the kinks or fetishes or activities.
If all you do are the things you like, that is compliance. Seize upon the acts that are hard, that challege you, do them with as much passion and committment as you can muster, that is satisfying to a submissive soul.
For me, the most intimate and importance aspects of playing are Trust, Transparency , Communication and emotional responsibility. That is heady stuff. It isn’t possible in one session to dive deep, it is a relationship built over time. These are the building blocks of a solid foundation to a healthy relationship that can grow over time. It is the principles I use with the Ponies I train, the foundation of our relationships. If you are seeking a D/s relationship this foundation is paramount in achieving the power exchange we all crave to develop. The fetishes and kinks are just the tools that help achieve that exchange. It is perfectly fine to have a healthy relationship and simply explore kinks and fetishes without a D/s relationhip, by the by. Just be kinky free spirit you.
And lastly, a client pays to leave and be emotionally free of me. We are only engaged in our relationship during the time the client has reserved. Over a course of years of knowing a client, our relationship deepens naturally.
Life is what you make of it. I grow my garden with integrity and positive energy. I am very thankful and am very blessed.
If you expect to cultivate and push someone’s limits get to know them.
Respect goes a long way.