“If you are the smartest person in the room, then you’re in the wrong room.”

“You are a combination of the five people you spend the most time with.”

“Don’t worry about how fast everyone around you is moving.  If you are determined, just move at your own pace, and you’ll kill shit every time.”

Eight days away from my 65th birthday.  Stronger than ever having taken on weight training in 2020.  Currently 116.8 lbs while eating real food, figuring out what I can eat and how much of it to maintain my weight and energy.  I love my life.

Masturbation is good for you.  Cumming is good for you.  It improves your physical, mental and spiritual health.  Personally, I am of the view that Sex (including sex with yourself) is God’s greatest gift to mankind.  And you are most likely your best and kinkiest sex partner.

It is easy to ask yourself if you want to try something new and different.  Cross dress. Play with your food.  Explore leather or latex.  And TOYS!  My gosh, there are some awesome toys out there to explore and play with.

Self love.  We can be our worse critic, hardest on our self in judgement.  Take time to make love to yourself.  Set the mood, you are worth lighting your favorite candle for or having your favorite drink.  Touch yourself, talk to yourself, hold yourself.  Brush your skin.  Polish with a scrub after.  Give yourself a pedicure and/or manicure.  Take some oil you love the scent of and rub it all over your body.

Bring yourself to Orgasm.  

Start with touching your genitals, caress them  This gives your emotional center in your brain a ping.

Dr. Dougherty says. “When your genitals are stimulated, they’ll “send a signal to your brain’s limbic system waking your emotional centers of the brain. The limbic is a network of nerves and systems in the brain, controlling instinct and mood, basic emotions (fear, pleasure, anger) and drives (hunger, sex, dominance, care of offspring).”

Start with opening up your brain, thinking about fantasies, a story, a situation, a picture that turns you on.  Your biggest sex organ is your brain.  Let it run wild, give it permission to envision what it wants most.  Are their smells that turn you on?  Go for it.

Use your hands, toys, mix it up, it is all good.  For women, you can stimulate just the clitoris, or just the g-spot, or vaginal stimulation or “blended orgasm”. There are (quite literally) too many different kinds of blended orgasms to count. To name a few: combined vaginal and clitoral stimulation (my favorite), combined anal and clitoral stimulation, G-spot and clitoral stimulation, cervical and clitoral stimulation, nipple and anal stimulation. It goes on and on.

Orgasm lowers stress, tones pelvic muscles, lights up the centers in the brain, gives you a rush of endorphins, hormones during stimulation and  oxytocin is released when you climax.  It helps you sleep, as after the oxytocin, you receive a wallop of endorphin rush and they can have a sedative effect.  That natural oxytocin can lower blood pressure and reduce stress levels. 

ABC News reports that men who have climaxed at least three times a week lower their risk of heart attack by 50 percent. Worth it.

A study found that when men masturbated to completion, their orgasms increased the number of white blood cells, so their immune system became stronger and they can fight off illnesses faster than usual.

Sex is good for your body with all of its cardio exercise, depending on how much of a work out you give yourself and having an orgasm?  The Mirror reported that it can increase your infection-fighting cells by 20 percent, making you even healthier.

Good Housekeeping reports that oxytocin lowers your cortisol levels and decreases the inflammation of your skin and can make pimples less noticeable.

Oxytocin has been found to increase bone density, making it a hormone that can help prevent osteoporosis and other bone diseases.

So, we are all done for this, right?

I have been weight training with Vicky D. Fitness, she is around the corner from me and works out of her garage, since April 15 2020 3 times a week.

I started August 3rd, weighing 134 lbs. , at August 15 I am down to 124 pounds, I can dead lift 105 lbs with repetition.

I have been on a restricted diet as of August 3rd, 2020.

I eat as many potato servings as a want a day, with a Topping.  Usually, this is 3 times a day unless I substitute a serving of tomato/cucumber with vinegar.  On weight training days I eat 2 boiled egg whites.  I eat 2 prunes a day.

1 cup mashed Golden Potatoes  116 calories

Fat  0.14g

Carbs  26.2g

Protein  3.03g

1 Idaho potato  110 calories  (I slice with mandolin and bake for 20 minutes on parchment paper with Flavor O Calorie topping)

Fat 0 g

Carbs 26g

Protein 3g

Standard Topping

1 tablespoon No Sugar Catsup,   Fat 3.7 grams and 19 calories

1 tablespoon artificial Bacon Bits 1 gram fat and 30 calories

Chocolate Topping

1 teaspoon maple syrup contains 13.5 grams of sugar and 52 calories

1 tablespoon ( I use 1 teaspoon) 3 grams sugar and 21 calories

Flavor God

Bacon Lovers  0 calories

Garlic Lovers  0 calories

Italian Zest 0 calories

Taco Tuesday 0 calories

Cucumber, with peel, raw Serving size: 1/2 cup, sliced (52 g) Calories 8   Fat 0 calories

Roma tomato, with peel, (62 grams) raw  Calories 11.2.     Fat 1.1 calories (1 g)  (I eat 2-3 tomatoes with 1 cucumber serving)

1 Tablespoon Balsamic Vinegar 14 calories  Fat 0 g

2 prunes pitted  46 calories  Fat 0g  Carbs 12g

2 egg white from boiled egg  34 calories  3.6 g protein  Fat 0g

UPDATE:

I have been on this limited diet for 2 weeks.  I am now adding:

White beans (Navy beans) low sodium  1/2 cup is a serving. Calories 110, Fat 0g, sodium 140g, fiber 6g, Protein 7g

Black beans, no salt added, a serving is 1/2 cup.  110 Calories.  Fat 0g, sodium 0g, fiber 6g, Protein 7g

I eat these with >2 tablespoons of Tomato paste.  Calories 30.  Fat 0g, sodium 20mg, Carb 6g (2g of that is fiber)

I drink coffee with maple syrup and soy milk, green tea with gingsing (homebrew), bone broth fat 0 g/sodium 310-330mg/Carb 0g, Protein 10g

Sometimes for dinner I eat as many small peeled carrots as I want and a cup of Bone broth.  It is very satisfying.

Update:

It is Friday August 25th.  I weigh 119.6 lbs. .  Some of my strength has been sacrificed by keeping to this diet.  I am still strong, toned.  This last week, I have been very tired in the afternoon, and take a nap after weight lifting sessions.  I look really good though, and I am most pleased.  I think I will be very close to 118 lbs by tomorrow, and that would be super.

I am really excited to see how this works out, how this translates into photos with Perry.

Photo by Craig Morey

Photo by Perry Gallagher

It is valid to simply walk in and Play, a Top (the person who is leading) and bottom or submissive (the person who is following).  You may simply have a list of play and follow it.

Kneel

Collar

Inspect

Spank, Paddle

Sensory Play (blindfold) and set on table

          smooth the skin with rabbit fur

          spit on chest

          crop thighs whilst pull leather flogger over body

Restrain

Tease and Denial

Forced Orgasm

Others like to use a scenario, this sets up a Play Scene, in which you are not yourself, you are an actor in a play.  Some find this more freeing and easier to give themselves permission to dive deeper into the play, as, afterall it isn’t them, it is their character.

Favorite Scenarios:

She is waiting for her flight, but you have the authority to take her away for interrogation, as they found the drugs in her luggage (that you planted).  She is confused (of course because she is innocent, but no matter).  She is yours to interrogate.  When she breaks and confesses to the crime she didn’t commit (and she will – eventually) you may offer her a way out of the labor camp, to be your personal slave.

She is a business colleague that you are trying close a deal with, dressed in a conservative business attire with lingerie underneath.  We are at a sales conference and she invites you to my room to “close” the deal.  However, unbeknownst to her, while doing some research on her – you  find out about her little secret of being a submissive in the bdsm world.  Knowing this, you use this to your advantage to get the deal closed and a bonus for you.

You are a sex therapist and all my friends tell me you are the very best at relieving their stress.  I am told your methods are unconventional, but to go with it.  So here I am in your office.

I am your boss who comes across as icy, yet highly professional.  I am always in charge, always setting up final decisions for me to have the last word on any matter.  You are not aware of my submissive side and we are on a business trip.  I invite to you to my room to discuss the days meeting.  You come to my room and I am in a latex dress, catsuit or provocative attire from which I seduce you, guiding you to lead me (Top Me) via my submissive kinks.  You realize that my “in charge professional work attitude” is balanced at home by to my submissive nature.

We are dating, getting to know each other. My big purse is sitting on the coffee table and I accidentally hit it, spilling the contents, which includes “50 Shades of Gray” looking pretty well read. You pick it up. “You like this?” “Yes, I reply shyly.” “Then we should start your training.” you smile.

Your sexy neighbor agreed to water the house plants while you were away, and you have returned early to find her in your bedroom looking at all your toys that are on the bed now but were hidden when you left. What will you do?

Wouldn’t bending your flirtatious voluptuous secretary over your desk, tying her there with some rope, so that you can spank her, maybe even paddle her before taking all her holes so that she gets who is running the office daily feel satisfying?

There is a lovely woman filling those provocative boots that caught your eye during lunch, you follow her out of the side walk cafe, catching up to her to, smiling, “Let’s do something delightfully unexpected together….now”

She is about to be here in your office. Caught in the boys locker room with the football team, having them finish with a circle jerk spraying on her. You are supposed to make sure she is okay. You are wondering if you should be making sure she truly does have skills.

Fun times ahead. Remember, it is “Play”.

Photo by Don Sir