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Yes, I am going on tour to Boston!

Domestic flights are flying.  My plane on return to Los Angeles from Philadelphia was half full.  I expect the same.  I do the sanitizing where I sit on the plane thing but I have always done this but you never know what the person before you did in that seat, if they had a cold, if they wiped their dirty hands everywhere, etc.

I am very aware of common surfaces, I wash my hands, I carry sanitizer and use it as needed.  I don’t touch my face because I was taught to as a child.  Touching your face gives you blemishes and colds/flu, etc.  My Grandmother was very keen on not touching your face and I was disciplined not to.

While restaurants cannot have in restaurant dining, many are offering take out and the hotels have in room dining on a limited menu.  I am staying at very nice hotels.

I am not a convention or a large group gathering, I am one healthy person.  You may come see me.  If you are from a place with curfew, make a daytime appointment.

 

If you are not feeling well, if you have COVID-19 symptoms, stay at home and self isolate yourself.  Do this for everyone.  

Do not trust the media or interpretations of what is happening.  They have their own agenda.

Govt. Center for Disease Control:  https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html

I am not traveling Abroad, I am traveling Domestic.  

Govt. on Travel :  https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/traveladvisories/ea/covid-19-information.html

 

See you in Boston for fun times. 

Be safe.  Do the things.  Wash your hands, beware of common touch surfaces, don’t touch your face.  Be kind to one another.  Please.

Am I single?

I read this question a LOT in my Inbox, in social media Inboxes, and I always wonder why is it asked?

Jane Austen must have pondered the inevitable social demand that women marry, as it was the only financial and social answer for a woman who wanted a positive view of herself in society in her day.  A woman in her time was not allowed to own property.  That was 200 years ago.  Surely, we have progressed since then, that as a society we don’t frown upon women who wish to be independent?  We don’t call a single woman over 21 years old a spinster anymore, do we?

I was married for 7 years.  I was divorced.  It was a horrible experience in which I found myself not seen, not heard, not understood, held as a pretty trophy, not supported in growing.  Let’s just sum it up that it was not an experience I ever wanted to repeat.

I wanted the power to make my own decisions, to manage my own money, to steer my own course.  I am responsible for my own happiness.  I have made mistakes along the way, and I learned from them.  Being independent and supporting myself, making my own way has been thrilling to me, has spurred me to get up every morning and pursue being the best me.

I am in a committed relationship with myself.  I do self care.  I think about what I eat, do morning yoga, stretches, lift weights, do my administration work, schedule my appointments, work, garden, walk and hike.  I strive to have a balanced life.

I am in a very committed relationship with my dog, Ollie (Oliver Queen), who is my walking/hiking/yoga partner, best buddy and all around companion.  You, emotionally, cannot compete with him.  He is all about me being happy and taking care of him.  We have a schedule, a routine, he keeps me focused on it when I tend to be easily distracted.

I am in a committed relationship with my friends.  Almost all of my friends do Animal Role Play events and activities with me.  I also like to have my friends over to my home, I like to cook for them and enjoy an evening of delicious food and thought provoking conversation.

The avenues open to you to spend time with me are to support and attend Animal Role Play events which I share with the BDSM/Leather/Kink/Fetish Community and friends.  I do not attend my lifestyle events as a submissive, I attend as a Pony Trainer.

You are welcome to make an appointment and explore with me any kink, fetish, bdsm or companion or conversational adventure you wish.  My time is $350.00 per hour.  I will ask you for a deposit of $100.00 which is non-refundable if you cancel for any reason.

I sincerely hope this question is not from having a fantasy of dating and being my boyfriend or lover and being with me for “free”.  I don’t believe there is any actual FREE relationship, everybody asks for something that involves time, service, gifts, touch, sex, words. I have unfortunately already been a trophy, and I certainly don’t want to be someone’s Robin Pachino trophy.  I am really good with it being a fair deal that you give me $ for my time, we do the quality time, and you walk away, no strings attached.  This is an honest, uncomplicated relationship I understand.  This is a successful relationship.

Please make an appointment,  Come and have fun, Tell me your dog stories, tell me about your garden, what book you are reading, laugh, be held, let the good times roll.

Thank you for listening.

 

 

New Toy Bag

This is what I will be bringing on tour this year, starting March 2nd in Washington DC

 

 

Clover Clamps, Weighted Barrel Clamps, Rubber tipped clips

 

 

Finger Braided whip, Fuzzy paddle, Leather Paddle, London Tanner Paddle

 

 

Deerskin Flogger, nylon tassel flogger, 2 crops, paint stick, leather slapper

 

Bunny flogger, bunny skin, 2 sized ball gags, blindfold

 

 

leather neck collar and leather leash, carobiners (assorted sizes), door attachment suspenders, leather cuffs for wrists and ankles, black cotton rope no chord cut into smaller sizes, green nylon rope

 

Strap on with small silicone dildo or large silicone optional vibrating dildo, remote controlled silicone skinned butt plus, silicone anal beads (2 sizes), tristan butt plus (silicone)  and small/medium/large nitrile gloves

 

Small/Medium/Large vibrating gloves, nipple and pussy inflate cups with chapstick, blindfold, massage vibrator

 

ear plus, tickler (not pictured), rechargeable Magic Wand, silicone skin vaginal vibrator, clit vibrator (silicone skin), remote controlled butterfly, small bullet vibrator.

 

 

 

 

What condoms do I bring?

TROJAN™ Ultra Thin Lubricated Condoms are thinner than standard TROJAN™ Latex Condoms – designed for a more natural feeling.

  • Low latex odor
  • Thinner than standard TROJAN™ latex condoms
  • Special reservoir end for extra safety
  • Made from premium quality latex to help reduce the risk of pregnancy and STIs
  • Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

MAGNUM™ Lubricated Condoms – The Gold Standard™ in comfort and protection.

  • Larger than standard latex condoms for extra comfort
  • Tapered at the base for a secure fit
  • Silky smooth lubricant for comfort and sensitivity
  • Special reservoir end for extra safety
  • Made from premium quality latex to help reduce the risk of pregnancy and STIs
  • Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

MAGNUM™ XL Lubricated Condoms are intended for men who feel that current regular and large size condoms are too small. Other men may experience slippage with this extra large size condom. The Gold Standard in comfort and protection.

  • Larger than original MAGNUM™
  • 30% larger than standard condoms
  • Tapered at the base for a secure fit
  • Silky smooth lubricant for comfort and sensitivity
  • Special reservoir end for extra safety
  • 30% larger than standard condoms
  • Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

SKYN ORIGINAL

  • Made from SKYNFEEL™, a non-latex soft material that you’ll find barely noticeable but as strong as premium latex.
  • Lubricated with long-lasting ultra-smooth lubricant
    • Ideal for people with latex allergies or latex sensitivity
  • Straight shape with reservoir end
  • Combines the strength of premium latex with the sensitivity of an ultra thin condom
  • Nominal width: 53mm

 

sometimes I will have:

TROJAN™ BARESKIN™ Lubricated Condoms – Trojan’s thinnest latex condom ever.

  • 50% THINNER than our Ultra Ribbed Ecstasy™ Condom
  • Silky smooth lubricant for comfort and sensitivity
  • Special reservoir end for extra safety
  • Made from premium quality latex to help reduce the risk of pregnancy and STIs
  • Each condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability

If you want something else, bring it with you.  😉

Health Advice

Copied from Trojan website:

Health Advice

You may think you know all about STIs, but what you don’t know could put you at risk. Take a few minutes and get the facts for a happier, healthier sex life. If you are concerned about your sexual health, discuss with your physician or doctor.

What is an STI?

STD stands for Sexually Transmitted Disease. These diseases are sometimes known as Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). An STI is any infection that is passed by body fluids during vaginal, anal, or oral sex. These fluids include semen (cum), vaginal fluids (the wetness in the vagina) and blood. A latex condom acts as a barrier to prevent these fluids from being exchanged. But, an STI can also be spread by contact with the skin of the genital or anal area if infection is present. It can also be spread by contact inside of the mouth. If you are sexually active, it is recommended that you are tested early and often for STIs. 

 

Am I at risk for STIs?

If you are sexually active you may be at risk for STIs. Remember, when you have sex with someone, you are potentially exposed to STIs that anyone they’ve had sex with before you may have had.

You may have heard them referred to by funny names, so to set the record straight, some common types of STIs, along with their associated symptoms and consequences, are listed below:

AIDS-HIV
(Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome/Human Immune-Deficiency Virus)
 
CHLAMYDIA
 
GONORRHEA
(Clap, Drip, GC)
 
HEPATITIS B VIRUS
(HBV)
 
(GENITAL) HERPES
 
SYPHILIS
(Syph, The Pox)
 
TRICHOMONIASIS
(Trich)
 
(GENITAL) WARTS
(HPV) Human Papillomavirus

If used properly, latex condoms will help to reduce the risk of transmission of HIV infection (AIDS) and many other sexually transmitted diseases.

Copyright 2006, Church & Dwight Co., Inc. All Rights Reserved.

 

What I want you to know

1. Always Show Respect

You might have a bit of cognitive dissonance when you are paying for the experience of realizing your fantasy or actually doing a fetish or kink you have only thought about or have only seen pictures of before.  It’s the whole issue of doing something you fantasize about that also scares or disgusts you OR you are adventuring into the unknown, something you have never done before — and this is true for those that solicit women, as well as those that solicit men. Regardless of how you feel about us personally, we are still human. And that means we’re owed respect. Here are some ground rules we’d like you to follow:

  • Sex workers still retain the right to say no.
  • You should always pay for the activities upfront and have exact change, or if your bills go over, you give that and it is on you.
  • Don’t make a sex worker ask for payment. Everything will go much better if you pay at the very beginning.
  • Unless a sex worker agrees ahead of time, always plan to wear a condom.
  • Never use violence.  Negotiate your play.  The difference between abuse and bdsm play that includes erotic spanking, flogging, etc. is agreed upon negotiation, which makes it consensual.
  • Unless other arrangements have been made, you must pay in cash; arriving with gifts, alcohol, drugs, gift cards or a credit card won’t suffice.
  • Do not haggle nor barter the sex workers price.  It demonstrates a lack of respect of their limits.  Think about it: you ask the price, they state it and then you are saying no and moving the goal post.  If a sex worker can’t trust you to respect their price why should they trust to respect any of their limits?
  • And finally, remember that sex workers will have boundaries (limits) which are personal to them.  Respect them.

2. What You See In Porn Isn’t Necessarily What We Want IRL

When watching any type of porn, what you see on the screen is performed by actors and actresses. That means it’s an act; it isn’t always a real expression of what real people want and do in real life.

Keep that in mind as you’re begging for us to perform calisthenics in the bedroom. While many sex workers are more than happy to indulge your fantasies, they still may decline (see the last bullet above).

That’s why it’s important to agree ahead of time as to what will go down. Before diving into the fun stuff, make sure you agree on things, such as:

  • What type of play and sex will happen, and for how long.
  • The exact price.    
  • The precise venue (keeping in mind that the sex worker will want to communicate locale to a friend in advance).
  • Expectations, including whether penetration will take place, nudity, role play, toys, how a fantasy plays out for you or dressing up.

3. Master Some Basic Lingo

Words matter. Whenever there’s an exchange of money, it’s doubly important to speak the same language. As in every industry, sex workers share common lingo; get the terms right and you’ll have a much smoother, safer interaction.

Most sex workers prefer the term “sex worker” over “prostitute” or “whore.”  For one, the latter has derogatory connotations, and for another, it dismisses the fact that the sex worker is, in fact, working.  Yes, you can negotiate “name calling humiliation” making it consensual.

GFE stands for girlfriend experience, and it comprises your traditional, vanilla sex that you’d expect in any normal relationship. Cuddling, kissing, oral, penetration — all the usual acts of affection you’d expect with an emotional bond. Except there isn’t any nagging nor any laundry nor any “honey do list” to worry about.

A-Levels means anal penetration.

Click for a full list of Hobbyist Acronyms

Sex workers are often compensated according to the amount of time together.  If you ask for a “quickie”, expect 10 to 20 minutes of a person’s time. A “short time” generally means about a half hour and an “all-nighter” means you’ll get to play until morning.  (I personally have a minimum of one hour and very rarely do an all-nighter because I sleep at night.  I am simply not a night person.)

4. Keep It Clean

This one has multiple meanings.

On a very basic level, it means that you should shower, brush your teeth, and take care of basic hygiene needs before meeting up. This is just a common courtesy that makes it more enjoyable for everyone involved.  If you are coming from a gym and want to take a shower first, ask if you can do that.  Most sex workers will have zero problem letting you shower first.  Ask if the time you take to shower counts into time of your session so you do not assume anything and have ruined expectations.

It also means that you should do your best to arrive sober. Not drunk, not high.  If you are wanting to be super drunk or high, not fully aware, not fully present, why are you showing up?  You are paying for an experience, be sober so that you may experience it.  A drink or having a drink together is different.

Finally, it means plan on wearing a condom. Always. Sex workers are concerned about their sexual health, and whether it be for oral or penetrative, chances are high that they’ll expect you to dress for the occasion. 

Want to give a Gift? I would love these toys!

 

Off Beat by Godemiche

 

Satisfyer Vibes Power Flower G-Spot Vibrator and Clitoris Stimulator with Fluttering Petals and Retaining Ring

 

 

Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 Rechargeable Clitoral Stimulator

 

TOR 2

 

Rough Sex and Kinky Sex Ideas

May be your thing, and it may not.  You might like some things on the menu and find others “meh.”  That’s fine.  It is about exploring and discovering what turns you on, what works for you.

 

Communication

is key and important in having your partner on this adventure with you being able to bring you more pleasure.  If it isn’t working for you, say so. 

  • “not working, let’s try…”

If you find an idea boring or just don’t enjoy it, say so. 

If you like it, words like:

  • “Just like that, just like that”
  • “Yes” “Yeah” “Yes baby”
  • “Mmmmmmmmm” “Ooooooooooo”
  • “I’m going to cum” “You’re going to make me cum”

are great “YES!” signals.

 

Blindfolds

are a great starting point.  With the eyes closed you smell and feel more.

Run an ice cube over his nipples, penis, balls, and lips.

Lick that cock!  From the base to the tip, all the way around, then focus on the tip, using the least amount of pressure possible.  Change it up and go to the balls, little licks all around, then gently swallow.  I like to hum while I swallow and lick, remember that everyone is different and while some may like their balls pulled on, some don’t.  Going back to the cock, swallow and roll your tongue around his shaft (like outlining a circle).  Wetter is better, so if you find yourself spitting up saliva, don’t swallow – spit it on his penis.  I think the most important aspect is to have fun and enjoy his cock.  Give your mouth a break with your hands and fingers if you want to.

Restraints

Ties make great bondage restraints.  If your bed doesn’t have posts, put rope in between the mattress and the box spring, then tie the rope to the tie.  I like scarves or ties because they are thicker and softer than rope, but whatever your taste regarding roughness is what counts.  Not too tight to cut off circulation and turn a hand purple, not to loose.

The opposite technique is to wrap his wrists with toilet paper (just enough to catch and stay) and tell him he only received pleasure while the paper is intact, if he rips it, the pleasure is over.

Spanking

Some find it hot, and arousing, some don’t.  Soft taps to a solid slap, how you spank makes a difference.  Slap and stay your hand, slap and drag your hand, slap and drag your hand using your nails lightly.  It is all sensations, some your partner will like more than others, find out their favorites.

Punishment and Reward

She cums first or he gets a spanking,

Ten minutes of in and out, different positions, if he cums too soon, he has to bring her to orgasm before you are done or he gets chores and a fix it list.

Make your own list of what you think are punishments and what you consider rewards.

Passionate Kissing

Taking your hands over your partners body or holding close or holding their cheeks while passionately kissing, and not just tongue action, use those lips soft lips.

The Rough UP

Nails over body

Use your body to pin down arms and legs.

When you want to change position, take control and try to move your partner’s body into the new position with some force, so they can feel your strength.

Take hold of your partners hair at the nap of the back of the head and hold firm.  Take their mouth over your body where you want it to go.

Regarding Hair Pulling: 

Hair pulling can be pleasurable, kinky and erotic or plain painful depending on how you do it. 

THE RIGHT WAY

  1. The pleasurable part of everyone’s scalp is the very back. I’m talking about the opposite side of your head to your face.
  2. Start with your four fingers on the back of their neck, below the hairline. Then slowly push them upwards.
  3. When you have gone about  an inch above the hairline and extended your fingers,  grab their hair with some gentle force. Now, you’re not trying to pull it out of the scalp, but, equally, you shouldn’t be so gentle that they can’t feel it either.
  4. Start slowly pulling downwards, allowing their hair to gradually slip out of your grip as you do it.  After a few times of this, grap on firmer and direct the head.

Public Play

I love restaurants with long tablecloths, and an egg with a remote in my partners hands that looks like any cell phone, remote type thing.

Role Playing

  • Secretary/Boss fantasies
  • Action Hero fantasies
  • Getting blackmailed.
  • Strangers at a bar
  • Being “forced” into having sex.
  • Repaying a debt with sexual favors.
  • Being a sex slave at a resort
  • Being a masseuse that does whatever gets the job finished.
  • Having your innocence corrupted by someone more experienced…or being the corrupter yourself.
  • You have placed an ad on craigslist for “?” and this person answered
  • Being a bored housewife or househusband.
  • One of you is in an authority position like a fireman, cop, doctor, the UPS guy, crooked lawyer, professor, coach, slave owner, etc.
  • One of you is in a submissive position like being a criminal, student, intern, slave, etc.

 

‘Tis the Season for Candy Canes

Physically drain Toxins from your Body

I have heard people say “that person is toxic.”  In truth, all of us have toxins in our body we need to drain out, physically, seriously.  I have pondered if we consciously did this, would our behaviors, attitudes, our spirit be less toxic?  I don’t know, it is a scientific experiment worth funding.

What are toxins in your body?  

Pesticides & Food Additives

Preservatives, pesticides, herbicides, and food additives like refined sugar, chemicals, and food coloring all put a strain on the lymphatic system.

Consuming non-organic, highly-processed sugary and fatty foods creates a larger workload for your lymphatic system.

Eventually, eating enough of these without draining them from your body will prevent it from properly filtering toxins and bacteria, which can eventually lead to chronic disease.

Smoking & Second-Hand Smoke

This relates back to the toxin concept.

Smoking increases your body’s receptivity to developing fungal or viral infections, parasites, ulcers, cancer, bronchitis, high blood pressure, and many more issues.

Why?

Smoking depresses the body’s immune response, and since our immune system is essentially our lymphatic system, then smoking directly impacts the way our lymphatic system functions.

Prescription Drugs

Prescription drugs are toxic to the body.

They contain harmful chemicals and dyes and these compounds suppress the immune system.

Yes, I know your doctor says to take them and you should follow your doctors orders.  Sometimes asking for an alternative to a prescription drug never occurs to folks.  Ask.

Animal Products

Animal products have a very low pH, meaning they are more acidic than say a fruit or vegetable.  This means meat, eggs, and dairy can contribute to a sluggish lymphatic system if you don’t take steps to maintain your lymphatic system.

 

Six different things you can do:

1. Focus on Foods

Eating a diet rich in fruit and vegetables is essential to ensuring your lymphatic system is clean and flowing free.

  • Green Plants
    Plants with a green pigment, have chlorophyll, which is responsible for the absorption of light to provide energy for photosynthesis. Its molecule contains a magnesium atom held in a porphyrin ring.  Green leafy vegetables and plants help with blood detoxification, odor control, wound healing, gut health, energy, immune system support and cancer prevention.

  • Citrus Fruit
    Citrus fruit have wonderful astringent properties that help increase lymph flow and remove any blockages. Melons are great for helping alkalize the body, while berries are packed with antioxidants that keep our immune system strong. A body that is better equipped to fight against disease takes a lot of stress off the lymphatic system.  I personally love RED fruit (raspberries, cranberries).  Seedless oranges are the perfect snack.  Cut, peel away the rind and eat. Refreshing!

  • Healthy Fats
    Eating healthy fats like avocado, nuts, and seeds is also important to ensure we get enough essential fatty acids that help protect and nourish our lymphatic system.  Think: walnuts, roasted almonds, pine nuts, avocado, pomegranate seeds, quinoa, flax seeds. 

2. Hydrate Yourself

When was the last time you drank a glass of water? If the answer was hours ago, you might want to go fill up a cup.

Proper hydration allows lymphatic fluid to flow more freely throughout the vessels. Without enough water in our body, that fluid stays stuck and stagnant.

Essentially you want your pee to be a very light yellow, not clear because that means you are drinking too much water which is dangerous also.  That could mean you are flushing out all your salt and minerals that you need.  You don’t want orange pee though, that is way to dark, therefore, drink more water, even a cup or two cups more will make a difference.

3. Massage

Massaging is a great way to encourage natural drainage of the lymph from the tissue spaces in your body.  I love deep tissue massage but a light Lymphatic massage will give you results also.

Studies have shown that lymphatic massage can increase the volume of lymph flow by as much as 20 times, vastly increasing the system’s ability to remove toxins and infectious materials as well .

4. Exercise

Exercising is critical to keeping your lymph system open and flowing!

When your muscles move, they also help move and pump the lymph within its vessels.

Walking, yoga, running, swimming, stretching and strength training are wonderful ways to keep the lymph flowing.

Dancing (with lots of up and down movement) or rebounding is particularly helpful because the vertical motion of the exercise opens and closes the one-way valves that comprise the lymphatic system (and can increase lymph flow by up to 15-30 times!).

5. Dry Brushing

Dry brushing helps increase circulation and helps improve your skin tone if you suffer from cellulite.

Brushing your skin while it’s dry helps to boost slower-than-average lymph.

All you need is a dry brush, and a dry body to get started!

Starting on your arms, or legs, brush toward your heart with long strokes. Do this for 5 minutes all over your body before going into the shower.

6. Deep Breathing

Breathing deep is very important. Why?

Proper movement of air through the lungs helps move and pump fluid through the lymphatic system while providing it with fresh oxygen.

Becoming conscious of your breathing throughout the day and getting out of the habit of shallow breathing is a great way to start.

You can do this laying on the floor with your legs relaxed over the edge of a couch or bed. Hold one hand over your chest, and one on your belly. Take a deep breath in, and let it all out. On the inhale, focus on breathing from only your belly, so that your hand on your belly moves upward, while the hand on your chest stays still (your chest shouldn’t be moving). Continue doing this for 5-10 deep breaths.  You may find this calming and relieves anxiety also.